Retirement and next chapter

I essentially had two 24/7 careers - once as a soldier and the other running a P&L center for a major defense corporation. 12 years ago I retired, and we purchased our place in Texas on the San Gabriel. Now my days are spent with a chainsaw, the tractor, or mowers tending the place and our pecans when not hunting or traveling or both. I stay busy, and I take none of it to bed with me at night.
 
I retired just over 5 years ago at the age of 61. It took me a couple of months to really accept that I wasn’t on temporary leave… but retired. Once I accepted that and stopped feeling guilty about not working I took to retirement like a duck to water.

I’ve got a mild training routine for 3 days a week. Plus I’ve got a year planner beside the laptop….and most importantly if a hunting or shooting opportunity comes along I just say “yes”…and then fit it into my schedule.

I’ve never been busier doing things that I enjoy.

I’m lucky to enjoy good health and fitness. And I intend to make full utilisation of that whilst I have it. Because I know that that won’t always be the case.

So congratulations on getting to this stage….make the most of it because it won’t last for ever.
 
@odonata That 4x5 camera is a well built unit. Back in the day I had a Graflex speed graphic 4x5. It has been years since i thought of that unit. thank you for brining back some fun memories.

Best of luck in your travels. May fair winds grace them.
 
I retired full time 20 years ago and semi retired 11 years ago. Cut, loaded, hauled and unloaded these donuts this morning. Forecast to be in the 60s next week so splitting on tap then. My father always said, if you don't use it, you lose it. For me, there aren't enough hours in the week. Pay attention to your health, eat right, get enough sleep and maintain regular PSP, eye and dentist visits. View attachment 796803
Yes Sir, my dad now no more was an active sportman, always kept himself busy. When he used to visit us, even with failing eyes and aches and pains he still used to push himself every evening for a walk. He is my idol.
Words of wisdon from you Sir! Thank you.
Whatt is PSP?
 
I consider myself very lucky in life. Left school at 16 to help my father’s diamond drilling business. Moved on to hydro line construction and attended night school which helped to land a job in a small electrical utility that turned into a 32 year career. I retired in 2017 as the Director of Operations at the age of 52.
The only advice I give on retirement is, if you can afford to, do it.
I am busier now than ever, hunting, fishing, trail riding (SxS and ATV), volunteering, etc. My wife and I split our time between Ontario and Arizona, we prefer to fish from a boat rather than through the ice.
Congratulations, you beat me by 6 years:cautious:
 
I essentially had two 24/7 careers - once as a soldier and the other running a P&L center for a major defense corporation. 12 years ago I retired, and we purchased our place in Texas on the San Gabriel. Now my days are spent with a chainsaw, the tractor, or mowers tending the place and our pecans when not hunting or traveling or both. I stay busy, and I take none of it to bed with me at night.
You had two careers where you were devoted 24X7, not easy and thank you for your service. You deserve to take nothing to bed at night.
 
Yes Sir, my dad now no more was an active sportman, always kept himself busy. When he used to visit us, even with failing eyes and aches and pains he still used to push himself every evening for a walk. He is my idol.
Words of wisdon from you Sir! Thank you.
Whatt is PSP?
Twypo, should have been PCP, primary care physician.
 
I retired just over 5 years ago at the age of 61. It took me a couple of months to really accept that I wasn’t on temporary leave… but retired. Once I accepted that and stopped feeling guilty about not working I took to retirement like a duck to water.

I’ve got a mild training routine for 3 days a week. Plus I’ve got a year planner beside the laptop….and most importantly if a hunting or shooting opportunity comes along I just say “yes”…and then fit it into my schedule.

I’ve never been busier doing things that I enjoy.

I’m lucky to enjoy good health and fitness. And I intend to make full utilisation of that whilst I have it. Because I know that that won’t always be the case.

So congratulations on getting to this stage….make the most of it because it won’t last for ever.
Thank you Sir, wish you best of health for the future. Enjoy the flexibility to go for a hunt whenever the opportunity arises, I plan on doing the same :)
 
@odonata That 4x5 camera is a well built unit. Back in the day I had a Graflex speed graphic 4x5. It has been years since i thought of that unit. thank you for brining back some fun memories.

I learned how to shoot large format cameras by teaching myself how to use an old Graflex Speed Graphic that I found in a storage closet when I worked for the LSU student newspaper in the 80's. I didn't have a clue what I was doing & no internet to research it on. It was fun fumbling around with it.

Below is one of the last pictures I took with it. It's a photo of my Aunt Aline & Uncle Phil in front of the family farmhouse in Kentwood, Louisiana at sunset. I shot it with a Wollensak 135mm f/4.7 Optar lens on Tri-X. Developed in HC-110. Fun memories indeed!

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I’m 61 years old. I have retired from the Army and I have retired from being a Special Agent with Homeland Security. I currently work as a contractor at the Pentagon. The plan was for the wife and I to go town to Taveras Florida next weekend and put the deposit down for our new construction home in a 55+ community there. It would then take about 9 months to build the house and we move down to Tavares May/June next year. Last month, my wife left me. Just left. I was, and am, totally blindsided. At first I thought that took Florida off the table. But after thinking things through and talking to a bunch of friends, I will be going to Florida as a 62 year old single guy. It hurts. It’s not what the plan wasz my heart has been ripped from my chest. But figure I would be more lonely up here than I will be in a 55+ community in Florida with a Social Events Director that literally has things planned to do every day if I choose. I will downsize the house a tad. I will forego the pool in the back yard (the community center has one anyway), cut back on some options- and make it work.
I know where you're coming from. Been there, done that ... twice. Once divorce and then widowed. Both here one moment then gone. I survived and you will too. A couple words of advice during the transition. Easy on the alcohol. It's a depressant. You've had enough depressing you. Eat right and exercise. MOST importantly, know that there are worse things than loneliness. At the top of that list is living with the wrong person! Stand on your own two legs for a while before you take the plunge again. You don't need another woman by your side to prove your worth to anyone ... or yourself. Hang in there. Reach out any time if you feel the need. But, as you can probably tell, I'm not the best listener. Professional would be more advisable. Good luck!
 
I’m 61 years old. I have retired from the Army and I have retired from being a Special Agent with Homeland Security. I currently work as a contractor at the Pentagon. The plan was for the wife and I to go town to Taveras Florida next weekend and put the deposit down for our new construction home in a 55+ community there. It would then take about 9 months to build the house and we move down to Tavares May/June next year. Last month, my wife left me. Just left. I was, and am, totally blindsided. At first I thought that took Florida off the table. But after thinking things through and talking to a bunch of friends, I will be going to Florida as a 62 year old single guy. It hurts. It’s not what the plan wasz my heart has been ripped from my chest. But figure I would be more lonely up here than I will be in a 55+ community in Florida with a Social Events Director that literally has things planned to do every day if I choose. I will downsize the house a tad. I will forego the pool in the back yard (the community center has one anyway), cut back on some options- and make it work.
I feel your pain. At 58 years old a similar thing happened to me, where I was completely blindsided as well. The man I had three kids with and was married to for almost 26 years and been with for 32 years total, decided he needed something new and hooked up with some woman 30 years younger almost the same age as our oldest daughter.
Keep your head up, and as one door closes another one opens. I put myself out there, dated a bit and met the perfect man for me. He taught me to hunt and fish, passions I always wanted to pursue. We are building many memories together and when @skydiver386 retires we will be also moving to Florida to a 55+ community as well.
 
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Watching with interest. I reckon I’m 10 years out but I could possibly shorten that.
I could live on a lot less but I could do a lot more if I work till the time is right.
I left a crap job abruptly at 50 and said I would work part time or be semi retired. I took another job and had to educate HR regarding their shortcomings in the recruitment and appointment. With that sorted it’s worth staying at work and until the time is right and hopefully we do a few things while we wait for my time to make more time to chase our dreams.
 
I’m 61 years old. I have retired from the Army and I have retired from being a Special Agent with Homeland Security. I currently work as a contractor at the Pentagon. The plan was for the wife and I to go town to Taveras Florida next weekend and put the deposit down for our new construction home in a 55+ community there. It would then take about 9 months to build the house and we move down to Tavares May/June next year. Last month, my wife left me. Just left. I was, and am, totally blindsided. At first I thought that took Florida off the table. But after thinking things through and talking to a bunch of friends, I will be going to Florida as a 62 year old single guy. It hurts. It’s not what the plan wasz my heart has been ripped from my chest. But figure I would be more lonely up here than I will be in a 55+ community in Florida with a Social Events Director that literally has things planned to do every day if I choose. I will downsize the house a tad. I will forego the pool in the back yard (the community center has one anyway), cut back on some options- and make it work.
Been there brother, several times.

I can tell you with 100% certainty that if you move to an over 55 Community in Florida, you'll have 972 new friends, whether you want them or not. :D

Guys in those Communities get together in groups of all types. Need help working on a boat or truck restoration? There's a group already doing that you can hang out with. Want to go out fishing for Dorado during the run? There's already a group that rents charter boats a few times a week you can join.

Might be a bit early to suggest this, but you probably won't need to cook for yourself very often. Once the single gals in the community find out you are unattached, food will magically find it's way to your door I GAROTTEE! ;)
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I retired twice, once at 60 and again at 69. I was a drilling manager for various oil companies for 47 years. The last 10 were spent at BP trying to turn that mess of a company around. If you have seen the Taylor Sheridan show "Landman", I was basically the Billy Bob Thornton character. Everything you see him deal with (except a drug lord land a plane on a lease road and crash into an oil truck), I did on a daily basis. Every single day of my working career I would wake up with a new challenge or problem to deal with - most of which I never saw coming the night before.

So, when I retired, that stopped. My team of guys all retired as well. A big shake up to life style and busy-ness. My life has been non stop action and chaos. My wife and I have moved 20 times, she has lived in 40 different addresses in her life. We have been married 43 years, so you can see we have few roots. Whe is a retired ICU Cardiac nurse - she dealt with heart patients and transplant patients. So she had her fair share of chaos too.

Our staple, our "go to" in life has always been our faith in the Lord and our work/lives were truly about our church or churches. We found greater permanance there than in work or where we live. So, we have continue that in retirement. The first year or so was a bit odd in that I did not need to get up at 5:30 every morning and start taking notes and calls. It was a shock at times but after 6 months of it, I really like this slower pace.

As to what to do - I do what I want to do and what serves others and the Lord. We moved to ATL to be close to grandkids and one of our children and we travel often to see the others. I started playing golf again, which is more fun now that I really don't care what I shoot. We made 15 trips to Africa, sometimes with kids sometime not, made multiple trips after sheep, then to Europe for more civilized hunting and now we like to fish in Alaska (there are really dumb fish there and are easy to catch).

To make this all easier, we downsized our home, sold off most of my trophies, sold 50 guns +/-, simplified all of our savings accounts and let a wealth advisor manage it, kept our Labrador retriever, and shed a lot of things that were causing us time and mental grief.

If has taken awhile but it is worth it.

As to advice - retire the very minute you can as no company cares one bit about you and the next guy gets your chair. Life is short, then you face your Lord and hopefully you chose to follow Him so eternity will be better than anything you can imagine!
 
I’m 61 years old. I have retired from the Army and I have retired from being a Special Agent with Homeland Security. I currently work as a contractor at the Pentagon. The plan was for the wife and I to go town to Taveras Florida next weekend and put the deposit down for our new construction home in a 55+ community there. It would then take about 9 months to build the house and we move down to Tavares May/June next year. Last month, my wife left me. Just left. I was, and am, totally blindsided. At first I thought that took Florida off the table. But after thinking things through and talking to a bunch of friends, I will be going to Florida as a 62 year old single guy. It hurts. It’s not what the plan wasz my heart has been ripped from my chest. But figure I would be more lonely up here than I will be in a 55+ community in Florida with a Social Events Director that literally has things planned to do every day if I choose. I will downsize the house a tad. I will forego the pool in the back yard (the community center has one anyway), cut back on some options- and make it work.
I cannot fathom your pain. However..your keeping your head screwed on straight. The Florida community will help heal you and a guy your age in Florida will pick and choose! Single women are in profusion! But may I caution you. There are many man-eating sharks in that school of eager women wanting to be with you! Walk slowly, ask many questions of those who know whatever women you choose and heal. Good luck!
 
We plan to downsize probably five years down the line. At present the roots have spread too deep and wide for us to contemplate moving. Wife's job, Sons college and work, Daughters engagements, youngest sons high school- means we need to stay put, but definitively we plan to downsize down the line.
 
Twypo, should have been PCP, primary care physician.
Ahh… I came pretty close myself.

About five years ago, I started having pain in my left arm. I used to wrestle around with my youngest just for fun, so I initially assumed I had simply pulled or strained a muscle. My PCP prescribed a muscle relaxant, and the pain went away.
A similar episode happened again while I was on a company outing in Florida. I’d had a couple of drinks, and this time it started to worry me.

Then one afternoon, while I was vacuuming up some water I had spilled after lunch, I suddenly became severely short of breath. That was enough for my PCP to send me to a cardiologist.

After a battery of tests, they found an abnormality in the blood flow to the back of my heart. An angiogram was done with the expectation that they would probably put in a couple of stents. Instead, they discovered multiple blockages, with all three major coronary arteries more than 95% blocked. The “widowmaker” was at 99%.

I ended up having quintuple bypass surgery.

My friends tell me I caught it just in time. I suppose they may be right.

Recovery was slow, exhausting, and, at times, pretty painful. I also developed fluid around my lungs and needed an outpatient procedure to have it drained.

One of my first questions to my cardiologist at the follow-up was, naturally, “When can I go hunting and shoot my big bore again?”:E Lol:

That was about four weeks after surgery. He smiled and said, “Not yet. Your sternum was cut open, and it heals from the inside. Give it another few weeks.”

It actually took me more than eight months before I felt fully fit enough to start shooting again.

So, please take care of yourselves and listen to your body. It doesn't actually speak, but it certainly gives you plenty of hints and sometimes those hints are impossible to ignore.

Looking back, I was lucky. Very lucky.
 
I retired at 59… I’ll turn 70 next month. My wife is seven years older than me and also retired at 59. Ever since we married in ‘03, we loved to travel. She doesn’t hunt but with me to Zim on my first safari in ‘13. In 2014, I contracted GBS and put traveling on hold thru 2015 as I had to learn to walk again and gain strength. In 2016, the same week I retired, she was diagnosed with Parkinson’s.. The next week we left for a southwest US tour, visiting friends along the way. We continued traveling thru 2019, then COVID hit. We did some short trips in 2022-23. We had a trip to France planned for September’23 but she had a stroke a few weeks before departure, which put everything on hold. Since then I’ve been her caregiver.
Monday’s are laundry day and I spend my day in the basement tending to that and reloading. I try to hit the gym 2-3x / wk. March-December, I usually go to the range once a week. I’ve developed several close friendships there. She watches a lot of TV, which I try to avoid by doing a lot of reading, mostly news and history. Doctors’ appointments for both of us as well as hair and mani-pedi appointments for her keep me busy.
 
57 years old. On the countdown for sure. I'm public sector and they changed the pension rules a few years back and now you are heavily penalized if you leave before the age of 60, even if you have many many years of service as I do. But I'm weighing out the cost of leaving early with the benefit of more living. It comes down to time versus money. I recently had a thorough financial plan done which has been very eye opening. I recommend this -- not just an investment plan but a spending plan that accounts for taxes payable on different types of income at different time periods in retirement.
 
I retired at 59… I’ll turn 70 next month. My wife is seven years older than me and also retired at 59. Ever since we married in ‘03, we loved to travel. She doesn’t hunt but with me to Zim on my first safari in ‘13. In 2014, I contracted GBS and put traveling on hold thru 2015 as I had to learn to walk again and gain strength. In 2016, the same week I retired, she was diagnosed with Parkinson’s.. The next week we left for a southwest US tour, visiting friends along the way. We continued traveling thru 2019, then COVID hit. We did some short trips in 2022-23. We had a trip to France planned for September’23 but she had a stroke a few weeks before departure, which put everything on hold. Since then I’ve been her caregiver.
Monday’s are laundry day and I spend my day in the basement tending to that and reloading. I try to hit the gym 2-3x / wk. March-December, I usually go to the range once a week. I’ve developed several close friendships there. She watches a lot of TV, which I try to avoid by doing a lot of reading, mostly news and history. Doctors’ appointments for both of us as well as hair and mani-pedi appointments for her keep me busy.
Hang in there.
 

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