I’m sick of un-gentlemenly acts

[Speedster]

Amazing the number of people with no common manners. I work in an office and 2 guys with desks within 50 feet of mine have never spoken to me or acknowledged my presence in 14 years. I can be walking down the hall and if they are walking towards me, no hi, no nod, nothing. They walk past as if I am invisible. I have tried to make eye contact and to say hi or good morning to no avail. These are not young guys either. Sure was not the way I was brought up.

 

[fourfive8]

Dang, wish I hadn't looked at this thread again. The examples can be kind of depressing One bright moment in the dark haze happened the other day though. It was the last day or two home of my daughter’s semester break so we decided to get some lunch at a restaurant in town. I entered first then noticed she hesitated as she saw an older man struggling, shuffling along from across the parking lot. It took him quite a long time to get to the door. I waited inside as she held the door open for him. I am so proud of her! She probably learned that sometime as a toddler having grown up with help from senior lolos and lolas. BTW, she also grew up showing Mano Po. Here’s the only pic (‘81 or’82) in existence of her G ma, the sister of her lola that took care of her and passed along the culture of manners. I’m certain it was a family thing passed down for generations. My wife shows the same manners. My daughter, at 22, looks just her G ma in this pic, taken about age 32

 

[Troubleshooter]

This is an interesting observation. Similar can be said regarding how folks dress in public

My buddy and I had a very odd interaction with a middle aged female in Denver at the state game and fish office. We held the door open to allow this woman to enter the building first, and she promptly dressed us down and told her she didn’t appreciate the sexiest gesture. Definitely not the response I expected.

Simple response: "I'm sorry, you must have misunderstood my actions. I didn't hold the door open for you because you're a lady -- it's quite clear that you are not -- I held it open because I'm a man."

One wonders whether the Denverite mentioned above spent the weekend with her girlfriends bemoaning the fact that she just can't seem to find a good man.

 

[Troubleshooter]

Courtesy is not totally lost on the young. A few years ago, my wife and I went to a movie theater and when we were leaving, I held the door open for my wife as usual. There was a HS aged girl sitting outside on the ground, keying on her phone. She looked up and said: “That is so sweet. I wish my boyfriend would open doors for me.”

And the appropriate response would be, "So then why is he still your boyfriend?"