I’m sick of un-gentlemenly acts

[pilar]

Today I went to the post office, and they had a fast closing door
And I watched a older lady standing in the cold weather trying to get in the door and many men just brushed past her and slammed the door in her face, or wouldn’t stop to open it or hold it open for her. I must be some kind of weirdo , because I jumped out of my truck and ran across the parking lot and opened the door, took her packages and carried the heavy stuff to the counter, before I returned to get my own stuff.
It was common practice for men to hold the door open for women ( especially older women) when I was younger, has something changed in society? And are we now just basically rude or to busy to be gentlemen?
I don’t mean to rant , but my wife is handicapped and it’s a pet peeve of mine

 

[analog_peninsula]

Most have no aspirations to be a gentleman. It's a shame, because a true gentleman can behave appropriately no matter his surroundings, and is happy to assist others where possible.

 

[DillonG]

It depends where you live. I’ve noticed urban areas, in general, have divorced common decency across the country. It is a terrible shame. I’ve also noticed basic attire has sharply declined. The culture of American decency has been eroded for the sake of, what I consider, hedonism.

 

[SCHUNTER73]

This is an interesting observation. Similar can be said regarding how folks dress in public

My buddy and I had a very odd interaction with a middle aged female in Denver at the state game and fish office. We held the door open to allow this woman to enter the building first, and she promptly dressed us down and told her she didn’t appreciate the sexiest gesture. Definitely not the response I expected.

 

[BonUm16]

Natural evolution of a society devoid of shame and centered on “self”.

 

[deewayne2003]

@pilar

I agree with you, but my gripes are with how certain people have taken technology to annoying behavior.

Example - Speaker phone is not for public!!!!!

Nobody wants to hear your conversation, so take the phone off of speaker and hold it up to your ear.

 

[JimP]

While I have no problem helping out anyone who is having problems or even just holding the door open for them there are quite a few out there who have been burned by helping someone.

I once tried to help a lady with her packages at the post office and she gave me a glare that would of turned a normal person to stone. Watching a few thing on the www the people posting are telling the women of the world that they have instigated this problem of men not helping them. They want to be independent and tell us that we didn't need to open the door for them, we didn't need to pull the chair out for them along with other things. A number of these things are disappearing with the generations X, Y, and Z.

Common decency disappeared a long time ago.

 

[analog_peninsula]

This is an interesting observation. Similar can be said regarding how folks dress in public

My buddy and I had a very odd interaction with a middle aged female in Denver at the state game and fish office. We held the door open to allow this woman to enter the building first, and she promptly dressed us down and told her she didn’t appreciate the sexiest gesture. Definitely not the response I expected.

Them: "Have a nice day."
Me: "Don't tell me what kind of day to have!"

 

[baxterb]

While I have no problem helping out anyone who is having problems or even just holding the door open for them there are quite a few out there who have been burned by helping someone.

I once tried to help a lady with her packages at the post office and she gave me a glare that would of turned a normal person to stone. Watching a few thing on the www the people posting are telling the women of the world that they have instigated this problem of men not helping them. They want to be independent and tell us that we didn't need to open the door for them, we didn't need to pull the chair out for them along with other things. A number of these things are disappearing with the generations X, Y, and Z.

Common decency disappeared a long time ago.

I had a liberated neighbor who I once opened the car door for. At which time I was severely lectured that she did not need me to open any door for her and she could do it herself. So I promptly slammed the door an told her to get it her damn self.

Believe it it or not she was satisfied with that result. I don’t know how her husband (who was a good friend and great guy) put up with it.

 

[DillonG]

Would it just be more simple to only show menial respect to people you know? Unfortunately, 2026 is not 1976 when it comes to cultural norms.

 

[Hyde Hunter]

This is an interesting observation. Similar can be said regarding how folks dress in public

My buddy and I had a very odd interaction with a middle aged female in Denver at the state game and fish office. We held the door open to allow this woman to enter the building first, and she promptly dressed us down and told her she didn’t appreciate the sexiest gesture. Definitely not the response I expected.

well, that is Denver for you, a crap hole state now

 

[Africa1]

We cannot blame the individual. Blame the parents of the individual who didn't take the time to properly raise and educate their children with proper manners. Every generation seems to decline. Children are our future, NOT what we are expected to create when we marry. If you cannot give them your attention, time and instruction in their first 18 years, it is ok not to have children. We are not all suited to the task. JMO

 

[Hyde Hunter]

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I had a liberated neighbor who I once opened the car door for. At which time I was severely lectured that she did not need me to open any door for her and she could do it herself. So I promptly slammed the door an told her to get it her damn self.

Believe it it or not she was satisfied with that result. I don’t know how her husband (who was a good friend and great guy) put up with it.

Probably would cost him to much to get rid of her!

 

[farmer_john]

Today I went to the post office, and they had a fast closing door
And I watched a older lady standing in the cold weather trying to get in the door and many men just brushed past her and slammed the door in her face, or wouldn’t stop to open it or hold it open for her. I must be some kind of weirdo , because I jumped out of my truck and ran across the parking lot and opened the door, took her packages and carried the heavy stuff to the counter, before I returned to get my own stuff.
It was common practice for men to hold the door open for women ( especially older women) when I was younger, has something changed in society? And are we now just basically rude or to busy to be gentlemen?
I don’t mean to rant , but my wife is handicapped and it’s a pet peeve of mine

Why are you trying to shame men for giving women what they keep screaming at the top of their lungs they want. You virtue signalling white knight mentality is the problem here.

Women are running around selling photos of their butthole for 5 a month on only fans but then want to be treated like a princess.
They want equality until they are treated equal. But they would prefer to be alone with a wild bear than a man.

Younger generations of men have heard loud and clear what women today want. And are just quitting the scene because interacting with them can end in majorly negative life impacts. Hell giving compliments now can get you fired now a days.

I would still help the elderly. But thats a seperate genre from women im general.

Under 40? Their husband/BF can help them.

 

[ThreeJacks]

This is an interesting observation. Similar can be said regarding how folks dress in public

My buddy and I had a very odd interaction with a middle aged female in Denver at the state game and fish office. We held the door open to allow this woman to enter the building first, and she promptly dressed us down and told her she didn’t appreciate the sexiest gesture. Definitely not the response I expected.

I live in Virginia but work in the DC Swamp. I purposely hold the door open, say hello, etc. like a good Southern gentleman just to piss them off.

 

[pilar]

Natural evolution of a society devoid of shame and centered on “self”.

I just try to be generally positive in public to everyone, like my grandfather acted and he ingrained in his family.
If someone doesn’t want a act of common decency I’m sorry if I offended them

 

[farmer_john]

I just try to be generally positive in public to everyone, like my grandfather acted and he ingrained in his family.

Im the same. But im not going to drop everything and sprint across a parking lot either.
Unless someone is literally dying. And even then im not sprinting.

 

[SFRanger7GP]

We live in two small towns. Manners and common courtesy are still social norms, thank God. Since courtesy costs nothing, I try to use it as my standard for dealing with people. But to @farmer_john post, the human species has sunk to an all time low. Look at the creatures screaming at protests as one good example. And too many people tolerate that madness and coddle it.

We live in a small country town in Colombia. Yet the Mayor had to go outside the town for our Señorita Pageant representatives. We couldn't find an eligible local girl that wasn't a social media lunatic and/or amateur pornstar. And those that weren't were still covered with ugly prison style tattoos. WTF?? Some people complained and the Mayor said "I am sorry and saddened, but our citizens are raising zorritas y foofaas". (basically sluts and hookers).

Different world but I refuse to lower myself to the new normal.

Safe travels

 

[skydiver386]

Why are you trying to shame men for giving women what they keep screaming at the top of their lungs they want. You virtue signalling white knight mentality is the problem here.

Women are running around selling photos of their butthole for 5 a month on only fans but then want to be treated like a princess.
They want equality until they are treated equal. But they would prefer to be alone with a wild bear than a man.

Younger generations of men have heard loud and clear what women today want. And are just quitting the scene because interacting with them can end in majorly negative life impacts. Hell giving compliments now can get you fired now a days.

I would still help the elderly. But thats a seperate genre from women im general.

Under 40? Their husband/BF can help them.

Sad but 100% true.

Young men today are no longer willing to help younger women because they rightfully fear a sexual harassment lawsuit. There is a reason former VP Pence would not allow another female in a room with him in unless a third person was present.

Even rendering medical aid to someone can get you slapped with a lawsuit that destroys your financial future.

Chivalry is dead because feminist women killed it.

 

[Nyati]

Just this morning at the doctor´s office, an old lady dropped her cane, and I retrieved it for her.

I was pleased to receive a thank you and warm smile.

If the result had been different, I would have done the same anyway, can´t help it, that´s how I was raised.