Dangerous Situation of Sorts ;)

[JoeSoap]

(Now some of your spouses hunt, so this isn’t for y’all).

So you want to go hunting in Africa or somewhere for a week or two…what do you do with your wife or how do you convince her it’s ok for you to go? Bonus points if you have a way to convince your spouse and she is happy that your going! (So far I am considering taking up snoring…

Now I know folks will say bring her along and she can do a photo safari…which is great and will work once, what about the 2nd or 3rd time?

 

[ActionBob]

(Now some of your spouses hunt, so this isn’t for y’all).

So you want to go hunting in Africa or somewhere for a week or two…what do you do with your wife or how do you convince her it’s ok for you to go? Bonus points if you have a way to convince your spouse and she is happy that your going! (So far I am considering taking up snoring…

Now I know folks will say bring her along and she can do a photo safari…which is great and will work once, what about the 2nd or 3rd time?

Side trips. Vic Falls, Kruger, do the Garden Route Drive, Zanzibar! Cape Town!

 

[Russ16]

I’m getting married in May but have lived with my fiancé since 2019.

I may be different but it is never an issue for us. If she wants to go somewhere she does. If I want to go I do. She does several beach trips with her girlfriends every year. Just lets me know when she’s going to be gone. I do the same with hunting. I just tell her when I’m going and how to reach me. I bought a garmin where I can share my location so she knows where I am.

It probably helps that we were friends for several years before we started dating and she knew that I disappeared on long hunting trips. It was part of the package with me.

In choosing a partner it was important to me that neither of us ever feel the need to ask permission for anything we do.

 

[farmer_john]

(Now some of your spouses hunt, so this isn’t for y’all).

So you want to go hunting in Africa or somewhere for a week or two…what do you do with your wife or how do you convince her it’s ok for you to go? Bonus points if you have a way to convince your spouse and she is happy that your going! (So far I am considering taking up snoring…

Now I know folks will say bring her along and she can do a photo safari…which is great and will work once, what about the 2nd or 3rd time?

Well im planning my first next year and it was her idea.
Ive found doing alot of stuff together and encourage her to have like girls trips helps. Not sure if you have kids or not but be like hey ill stay home this weekend watch the kids you and alice go have a spa day or something periodically generates alot of good will.
Then when your like im going for a week hunting in main with my friends its like ok have fun.

Like were going to italy this year for 2 weeks. I will hunt in rhodesia next year but that will be my big trip.

But if its a solo trip make sure she has equitable option. Or a together trip at another time in the year.
My plan for hunting europe is stay in places where we can sight see and do fun things on the days im not hunting.
And that might be a good way to start out. Places that are alot more culturally interesting and women friendly like europe. Then africa might not be as hard a pill to swallow

 

[chonk34]

My spouse is happy when I have the opportunity to go on hunting trips. She doesn't want to be a part of it and the specifics of hunting bore her to tears. By the same token, when she goes to do something that speaks to her I am happy that she has the opportunity. Sometimes we travel together to do something we both can be focused on and enjoy. I think if I went to Africa with her accompaniment we would not schedule hunting as part of the trip. My dad has done similar. When going with his wife, the focus has been on tourism/resort activities. The hunting trips are separate. I think if hunting is on the menu I will be too focused on that even on non-hunting days, and the result will be a less-than-ideal vacation for everyone.

 

[Russ16]

I should have mentioned we do one good vacation a year together not matter what. The last few years we’ve done private saiiing charters in Greece, amalfi coast, and Croatia with another couple. Great way to travel I highly recommend it.

This year our wedding is in Italy and I’ll be headed to Zimbabwe in August.

 

[375er]

Nylons and chocolate bars.....

 

[K-man]

Work with your spouse. Be around her 24/7 365. For 25 + years. She will encourage you to take a trip. Anywhere she isn't. She gets her girlfriend trips too. I'm playing the long game. It's been working now 15 years and 20+ trips. Follow me for more relationship advice.

 

[Flipper Dude]

Nylons and chocolate bars.....

Ol’ school. I like it.

 

[Belk]

My wife has been with me on 2 safaris and would go back tomorrow. Yours will be treated like a queen and want for nothing in Safari Camp.
Schedule her a PH host or nature guide to take her to surrounding attractions- elephant reserves, shopping, local villages, game drives. She will ask to go back after the hunt. Cape town is my wife's favorite place on earth! the beauty is magical.

 

[Flipper Dude]

9 safaris my wife has accompanied me. She doesn’t hunt, but goes on 90% of the hunts. She fishes and photos and game drives and Midland Meanders and Cape Towns and Garden Routes and Vic Falls and High Teas and Stellenbosches and Skeleton Coasts and Swakopmunds and all sorts of cool stuff.

Of course, she and her sister are hanging out in Antarctica this March. That will make all 7 for her. She’s got a little wanderlust in her.

 

[375er]

Ol’ school. I like it.

Thanks for getting the joke!!

 

[30-06Ken]

Nylons and chocolate bars.....

What is this 1944 Liberation of France ??

 

[30-06Ken]

Buy your wife a rifle and take her hunting.

 

[farmer_john]

What is this 1944 Liberation of France ??

Work with your spouse. Be around her 24/7 365. For 25 + years. She will encourage you to take a trip. Anywhere she isn't. She gets her girlfriend trips too. I'm playing the long game. It's been working now 15 years and 20+ trips. Follow me for more relationship advice.

Ive noticed alot of us have similar pattern of choices to ensure sucess

 

[Surgeon1]

After 2 wives I think I do great in my current situation. If I happened to find a woman who loved the outdoors and hunting as much as I do, I would reconsider my situation.

 

[gcbailey]

My wife did NOT want to go to Africa, despite her love for travel. I set up a photo safari for us on the front end and sight seeing on the back end. She absolutely loved it. When we got back, she would definitely want to do a photo safari again.

 

[mark-hunter]

(Now some of your spouses hunt, so this isn’t for y’all).

So you want to go hunting in Africa or somewhere for a week or two…what do you do with your wife or how do you convince her it’s ok for you to go? Bonus points if you have a way to convince your spouse and she is happy that your going! (So far I am considering taking up snoring…

Now I know folks will say bring her along and she can do a photo safari…which is great and will work once, what about the 2nd or 3rd time?

Give her a duty to be official photographer first time on safari.
Organize side trips to national parks after the hunt. (or panoramic balloon flight, or bungee jumping, or helicopter panoramic flights, or scuba diving, or museums visits, or whatever she prefers)

For 2nd and third trip, do not worry. You'll think of something later.
Options: let her become hunter. Hunt together.

A side note: so far I never managed to sell those ideas to my wife, so I go without her.

 

[375er]

What is this 1944 Liberation of France ??

A joke sir, a joke.

 

[Mark A Ouellette]

My wonderful wife accompanied me on my first elephant hunt in Zimbabwe. It was during late October into November and without saying, it was hot, Africa hot! My wife being a Bemba Queen grew up in Lusaka, Zambia and was no stranger to heat but hot nights without the benefit of even a fan was too much for her.

Compounding this was an axxhole of a PH who, despite him stating, “I’m not prejudice”, his subtle behavior toward my chocolate skinned wife was however not of respect. Any PH should know that if you want a satisfied client who brings his wife or girlfriend into camp, make sure that woman is taken care of. If you ever meet my wife, ask her about her elephant hunt for a play-by-play descripting of what not to do as a PH.

Tracking bull elephant in Zimbabwe​

While selecting my second elephant hunt in Zimbabwe, my wife said, “I need to talk to you”. Oh my gosh, I thought this is serious. She said, “I will go with you to Stuart’s camp (Tally-Ho Safaris) where there is a TV room, air conditioning and fans, and great food, but I don’t want to go to a Zimbabwe bush camp again. This was unfortunate because she really enjoyed tracking and see elephants in the bush.

The bottom line of this is that if your wife likes to crawl through the mud with you, ask her to go anywhere. If, however she enjoys a limited amount of roughing it, chose wisely where and when she will accompany you.

This February, my charming wife will attend one day on the floor of the SCI convention. That’s enough for her. The next two days I will be in Vulcan mind-meld (Mr. Spock, Star Trek) with other hunters and vendors while my wife is doing her own things in Nashville. I hope she hits it off with other non-hunting wives and goes shopping or whatever women do… Regardless of what she decides to do for two days, she will be happy doing it partly because it will be her decision and secondly because I am not impatiently waiting for her…

Wife and me while chatting with the large DeKlerks ( @DE KLERK SAFARIS ). I stand 5'10".​

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