You can do a search for "rifle headspace explained" or the like to understand there may be MORE space between the breech face and the bearing surface of the chamber where the shoulder hits. If the case is allowed to move when the case expands inside the chamber, it could be moving backward in addition to moving outward- this is where head separation occurs. Beltless cases with long and wide shoulders (like 308 Win) avoid this better than those with tiny shoulders (like the Rigby or even the 416 Rem) or those with belts and narrow shoulders (like the 300 and 375 H&H). Chamber fit is important. If the chamber is oversize for the brass, you wouldn't notice a thing closing the breech on new rounds; the problem would manifest on fired brass because it stretched to fit the oversized chamber.
I'm not saying you have an oversized chamber; I'm trying to justify your experience so far. Again, I'm hoping someone with real experience confirms or denies what I'm saying. I'm typing out loud here!
For your reference, here's the first part of Graeme's IHS description
I'm not saying you have an oversized chamber; I'm trying to justify your experience so far. Again, I'm hoping someone with real experience confirms or denies what I'm saying. I'm typing out loud here!
For your reference, here's the first part of Graeme's IHS description