Advice needed for problem with wife concerning doing another SA safari

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  1. rphguy

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    I know there must be many of you guys that experience many problems with your wife concerning your hunting trips.

    So, I have come to you guys concerning the situation with my wife of 28 years. My son and I just returned from South Africa.
    On our anniversary (July 28), I was hunting in SA, which wasn't a problem to her, as I have been away on mission trips during our anniversary a couple of times. She was fine with that.
    The problem, though, is kind of complicated and was brought up on the way home from the airport concerning any future hunt I might have hoped to go on.
    We're leaving the airport and she turns to me and says, "Jerry, I know there's no way we can plan to go to hunt in Africa next year, but if we don't go on vacation anywhere next year, could we probably save up enough money to go to South Africa in 2 years?"

    How do you deal with a woman like this?
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    I have thought long and hard about this. The best advice I could come up with is...Divorce her and give her my phone number! Just kidding buddy. You are a lucky man.
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    Encourage her to be by your side on the trip. Start saving now for the next trip and her rifle.
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    Divorce her, but first introduce her to me!!
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    actually, guys, Lana and I had been talking/planning for almost 2 years to go to Africa in 2013.
    In the meantime, I had been trying to get an elk or mule deer hunt out west for the past 2 years and guys I asked backed out just before applying for tags and haven't yet been.
    When it happened again this past Spring, Lana said "I'm not sitting at the Swamp (our tree farm/deer camp) all this winter listening to you complain about you being tired of shooting whitetails. You find someone to go with this year, somewhere."
    She had a hand surgery planned for June and knew her going this year was out of the question.

    I told her that I didn't want to go by myself and had no idea what to do.
    She said "Take Matt (our son) somewhere."
    I replied "He'll be in grad school in the Fall, I couldn't take him anywhere except in June or July. and that leaves only Africa and I can't afford 2 years in a row."

    She said to take him this year as a "graduation present" as long as I promised to take her to Belize or Italy in 2013 and Africa in 2015. The deal was made. Now (lol) she's wanting to try to change that deal, skip Belize/Italy and save the money and go in 2014. Sheesh! Women! I have a rough life.
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    She's probably killed 20 whitetails during the past 15+ years. mostly does but 1 pretty nice buck and some scrubracks. She always was deadeye on does but got buck-fever really bad. on the wall above me is a bobcat she shot and to its right is her first kill, a raccoon. She never hunted or fished growing up, nor did anyone in her family. She loves it though. For years she'd just sit with me while deer hunting, then decided she wanted to do the shooting. When the kids were small, I'd hunt the early hunt, come in and take her into the woods where she'd hunt until about 1, I'd go get her, we'd have lunch, then go for afternoon hunt. She'd sit by herself and I'd let the kids sit with me.

    Her first deer kill was using a 12 guage 3" Magnum buckshot at about 30 yards. She was a sight to see shooting 12 gu mag. She's all of 5'3" and about 120 at most.
    I then got her a 7-08 and she killed a few more, but the gun was heavy and long for her.
    So, she swapped with me son who outgrew his Rem youth 7-08.

    But, Lana was the most excited woman on this planet when I bought her a new rifle this year. A Savage Model 11 Ladyhunter in 7-08
    Savage Arms with a nice Nikon scope.
    Sweetest rifle I've ever seen.
    Sighted in with 3 shots at 100 yards practically in the same hole, 2 were, the other a halfmoon overlap.

    She was even more excited with this new rifle than when I got her that new vacuum cleaner for our anniversary. lol. (no, not really).
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    I was forced to go to Africa 2 years in a row and now she's trying to figure out how we can do it again in the next year! What am I to do about her? Damn, I should never have brought her along the first time 12 years ago!
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    women. they'll break you if you're not careful.
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    I know what you are going through,My first wife flately told me "you will never hunt in Africa,so just get the thought out of your head". I now have a similar "problem" with my new young wife. Our first African hunt was our honeymoon and we just returned from our 3rd trip in June. On the way back i was explaining to her that we have been very successful with plainsgame but now I'm consumed with dreams of the big stuff, tuskers, buffs and double rifles etc. This is what started the trouble, she explained that she has 1 more semester before she gets her RN degree and when she starts working her checks will cover all the bills leaving my pay to do what i please with. What kind of future do i have with a woman like this??
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    It's a serious problem, all right! The best gift my wife got this year was a Tikka T3 .243, and now she's keen to try it out (when she's not perfecting her .22 pistol shooting!). The first safari is definitely going to be 2-on-1! Seriously, guys, I think we are blessed to have found women who share the passion.
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    Actually, this made me realize we have not had a post by a female hunter for far too long. Come on, Ladies, write your stories!

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